A word summary of Steve's disastrous pot-holing holiday might be entertaining for your fellow spelunkers at the reception, but you'd be better off distilling it into a single gag …. So he should find marriage a breeze. If you do decide that an anecdote is worth relating - and some definitely are - make it the centrepiece of your speech, not one of several stories that get lost in the mix. In fact, don't ever tell more than one or two extended stories. The wait between laughs is too long, and if a story falls flat, it'll suck the life out of the room quicker than you can say "…at which point, the Vicar walked in.
Remember also that the groom will be less well known to some members of your audience than others. A long story that relies on intimate knowledge of his character or experiences will delight some, but disappoint many. Everyone expects the groom to get a little ribbing on his big day, but you're not out to destroy him. Go easy.
Balance friendly digs with praise and well-wishing and you'll be seen as a cheeky tease, instead of just a bastard. If you want to push things a little further, include an element of self-deprecating humour. Your audience will excuse more if you put yourself in the firing line alongside the groom:. I'm not sure why I was drawn to him. Maybe it was his My Little Pony back pack or his blue national health glasses. Best of all, his appearance earned him the reputation of the school weirdo, a title I would no longer have to carry alone.
Hopefully, this one's obvious. If you can't see why talking about his exes on your mate's wedding day might upset some people not least the bride , then you're probably already heading for a Best Man disaster of epic proportions. In fact, just for you, here are couple of extra do's and don'ts: Don't punch the bride's Dad. Do wear a tie … and trousers.
Don't puke on the cake. Do bring a gift. Don't bring an escort. As an extension of the point above, the Bride should be considered off-limits as a subject for humour or ridicule. In the first place, this is her special day, not yours; the last thing she needs is for her husband's mate to ruin it for her.
Most of the hard work is all done. And grand statements are always accompanied by excellent speech etiquette. Practicing the actual delivery of the best man speech in front of a camera is a great way to see what poor and good habits you have. And then, you need to keep practicing to eliminate the bad ones. For example, do you notice that you slump too much? Do you happen to mumble? Do you look down a lot? Take note of all of these when you look at the recording and then try the speech again while mindfully avoiding bad habits and watching out for awkwardly delivered wedding jokes.
Getting a spectator to sit and watch you deliver your best man toast lets someone tear into your bad habits without any bias. It may be painful, but this is what you want, and a larger group of people is best. Remember that a best man speech is a celebration of the love and joy that the bride and groom share.
Enjoy yourself up there and just deliver that crushing best man toast. Say what you have to say, and raise a toast to the bride and groom. Use this guide as a helpful resource and come back to it as many times as you need to ensure a totally awesome best man speech. Be Prepared and Plan Ahead Practice makes perfect. Record Every Thought You might be on the bus or in your car and think of an incredible quote or one-liner to say in your wedding toast, but our memories are very limited.
Keep a Positive Tone When it comes to the best man speech, the main thing to keep in mind is the goal of what you want to accomplish - celebrating the bride and groom. Here are some things to focus on: Your best experiences with the groom. How great a pair the bride and groom are. The best qualities of the groom. Possible first thoughts on the bride when they met If they were good thoughts! Anything about drugs, alcohol, gambling.
Perverse topics, or anything of a sexual nature. Harsh negativity. Inside jokes that are too specific. How do you do that? Take what you really like. Edit until you stop hating it. Being intimidated serves no purpose. Here are a few topics to get interviewed on: Where did you meet? Did you like each other at first? When did you become bros? What kind of crazy experiences did you have together? What kind of bad qualities does he have? What kind of good qualities does he have? We got you covered.
The Introduction The introduction needs to serve a single purpose: Getting people engaged! The One-Liner Approach An incredible one-liner is a great way of getting started. The Congratulatory Approach Alternatively, you can open by showing gratitude to: The bride and groom, for bringing everyone together. The guests, for attending this incredible event. The parents of the bride and groom, for bringing them into this world.
Here are a few ideas to get you started: Where you met the groom. No one in the room wants to see the best man fail to make a great speech. You may be sorely tempted to tell the clever dick to keep their thoughts to themselves. If someone heckles you, roll with it. More often than not the things people shout out are very funny. And, as best man, you want to make sure the way you deliver and present your speech does justice to your carefully chosen material.
Your speech should appeal to everyone from your friends to your maiden aunt, so try to rehearse in front of a variety of people. Test it out on people who will give honest, constructive feedback. You should also record your rehearsals on tape. How you fill your time will affect your delivery. Being tipsy could affect your delivery by making you slur your words and causing you to be unsteady on your feet.
Listening to the other speeches will help take your mind off your nerves and help to put you into the fun mood. Many professional performers swear by the trick of eating a banana about 20 minutes before they start speaking.
Doing this, they say, will give you a quick energy boost and help to steady your nerves. Think of your speech as a gift to your friends. Above all, enjoy yourself. If you would like to receive this information please tick your preferences below. Stay connected with our network and get all the best Wedding Planning, Inspiration and Competitions directly into your inbox.
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